So What You Gonna Do

1. Parents must learn to personally with their children.   

(Maintain a close relationship) 

2 Samuel 13:37-39

Absalom fled and went to Talmai son of Ammihud, the king of Geshur. But King David mourned many days for his son. 38) After Absalom fled and went to Geshur, he stayed there three years. 39) And King David longed to go to Absalom, for he was consoled concerning Amnon’s death. (NIV)

2 Samuel 14:1

Joab son of Zeruiah knew that the king’s heart longed for Absalom.  (NIV)

2. Parents must learn to problems wisely with their children.    

(Set something right that is wrong) 

2 Samuel 14:28-33

Absalom lived in Jerusalem for two years, but he never got to see the king.29 Then Absalom sent for Joab to ask him to intercede for him, but Joab refused to come. Absalom sent for him a second time, but again Joab refused to come. 30) So Absalom said to his servants, “Go and set fire to Joab’s barley field, the field next to mine.” So they set his field on fire, as Absalom had commanded. 31) Then Joab came to Absalom at his house and demanded, “Why did your servants set my field on fire?” 32) And Absalom replied, “Because I wanted you to ask the king why he brought me back from Geshur if he didn’t intend to see me. I might as well have stayed there. Let me see the king; if he finds me guilty of anything, then let him kill me.” 33) So Joab told the king what Absalom had said. Then at last David summoned Absalom, who came and bowed low before the king, and the king kissed him.(NLT)

3. Parents must learn to boldly their children.    

(Address much needed problems)  

2 Samuel 13:21

When King David heard what had happened, he was very angry.

2 Samuel 15:13-16

A messenger soon arrived in Jerusalem to tell David, “All Israel has joined Absalom in a conspiracy against you!”  14) “Then we must flee at once, or it will be too late!” David urged his men. “Hurry! If we get out of the city before Absalom arrives, both we and the city of Jerusalem will be spared from disaster.” 15) “We are with you,” his advisers replied. “Do what you think is best.” 16) So the king and all his household set out at once. He left no one behind except ten of his concubines to look after the palace.

4. Parents must learn to decisively their children. 

(To help children feel better) 

2 Samuel 18:5

The king commanded Joab, Abishai and Ittai, “Be gentle with the young man Absalom for my sake.” And all the troops heard the king giving orders concerning Absalom to each of the commanders.

2 Samuel 18:33

The king was shaken. He went up to the room over the gateway and wept. As he went, he said: “O my son Absalom! My son, my son Absalom! If only I had died instead of you—O Absalom, my son, my son!”