Song of Solomon: “The Art of Attraction”

The Song of Solomon
The Art of Attraction
2/1/26
Pastor Mark England

Ground Rules for Relationship Series
1. Listen for yourself, not for someone else.
2. Don’t look back.  Be wise to not filter it through what has happened.
*God Makes All Things New! *

God’s way isn’t just better… It works!

Lover: Solomon
Beloved: Shulamite maiden
Friends: “Daughters of Jerusalem”

Song of Songs 1:1-3 (NIV) Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine. ³ Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes; your name is like perfume poured out. No wonder the young women love you!

The Art of Attraction

Song of Songs 1:4-6 (NIV) Take me away with you—let us hurry! Let the king bring me into his chambers.

Friends

We rejoice and delight in you; we will praise your love more than wine.

She

How right they are to adore you! ⁵ Dark am I, yet lovely, daughters of Jerusalem, dark like the tents of Kedar, like the tent curtains of Solomon.
⁶ Do not stare at me because I am dark, because I am darkened by the sun.
My mother’s sons were angry with me and made me take care of the vineyards; my own vineyard I had to neglect.

She made some decisions that made her beyond what was .
If you’re going to have a Godly, full of love relationship… You’ve got to get way past the .
The has its place, but it’s not our .

Song of Songs 1:7 (NIV) Tell me, you whom I love, where you graze your flock and where you rest your sheep at midday. Why should I be like a veiled woman beside the flocks of your friends?

1. attraction.

• Love and .
• Pursue my God-given .
• Have Godly .

Song of Songs 1:9-14 (NIV) I liken you, my darling, to a mare among Pharaoh’s chariot horses. ¹⁰ Your cheeks are beautiful with earrings, your neck with strings of jewels. ¹¹ We will make you earrings of gold, studded with silver.

She

¹² While the king was at his table, my perfume spread its fragrance. ¹³ My beloved is to me a sachet of myrrh resting between my breasts.
¹⁴ My beloved is to me a cluster of henna blossoms from the vineyards of En Gedi.

2. attraction.

• to them.
• about them.

Song of Songs 1:15-17 (NIV) How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves.

She

¹⁶ How handsome you are, my beloved! Oh, how charming! And our bed is verdant.

He

¹⁷ The beams of our house are cedars; our rafters are firs.

Don’t ever about having a sexual attraction because put that there!
It’s the that wants to it.  So it!

3. attraction

Song of Songs 2:1-2 (NIV) I am a rose of Sharon, a lily of the valleys.

He

² Like a lily among thorns is my darling among the young women.

Song of Songs 2:5-7 (NIV) Strengthen me with raisins, refresh me with apples, for I am faint with love. ⁶ His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me. ⁷ Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.

God created .
The , , and in it.
But if you get it it will be one of the most parts of your life.

When I came to God I was , , and a complete .
There was about me that was attractive, and God had to say “I don’t think I want that.”

Instead, He decided to the unlovely.
He knew that if He loved me in my , that I would .

If you think this is …
It is!  .

You come to love not by the perfect person but by the person perfectly.