Our Not So Perfect Family – 2

OUR NOT SO PERFECT FAMILY – 2

James 1:19 (NIV)

¹⁹ My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,

James 3:2-10 (NIV)

² We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is perfect, able to keep their whole body in check.

³ When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. ⁴ Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. ⁵ Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. ⁶ The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.

⁷ All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, ⁸ but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.

⁹ With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. ¹⁰ Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be.

Proverbs 17:27-28 (NIV) ²⁷ The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint, and whoever has understanding is even-tempered. ²⁸ Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues.

Proverbs 12:18 (NIV) The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing

Proverbs 18:13 (NIV) To answer before listening—that is folly and shame.

Proverbs 18:21 (NIV) The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

Psalm 19:14 (ESV) Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer

Four Levels of Communication:

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2. information.
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Proverbs 18:21 (NIV) The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

Healthy Communication

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Matthew 3:17 (NIV) And a voice from heaven said, “This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased.”

Proverbs 25:11 (AMP) Like apples of gold in settings of silver is a word spoken at the right time.

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Proverbs 18:21 (NLT) The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

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Jeremiah 31:3 (NLT) “I have loved you, my people, with an everlasting love. With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself.

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Ephesians 4:29 (NLT) Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.

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Proverbs 15:1 (NLT) A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.

• in love.

Ephesians 4:15 (NLT) Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ…

John 1:14 (NKJV) And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we beheld His glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father, full of grace and truth.

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Psalm 16:8-9 (NLT) I know the Lord is always with me. I will not be shaken, for he is right beside me. ⁹ No wonder my heart is glad, and I rejoice. My body rests in safety.

Ephesians 1:15-23

• thankfulness for these people (v 16)
• consistency and faithfulness in  prayer for them (v 16)
• asking for them to receive the “Spirit of wisdom and revelation” (v 17)
• seeking for these people to know God better (v 17)
• prayer for their enlightenment in knowing the hope God has called them to (v 18)
• praise of God’s great power and prayer that they would know and experience this power (v 18-20)

Colossians 1:9-13

• for God to fill them with “the knowledge of his will” (v 9)
• that the Spirit will equip them to “live a life worthy of the Lord” (v 9-10)
• for them to live in a way that pleases God in every way (v 10)
• that they will bear fruit in every good work (v 10)
• and grow in the knowledge of God (v 10)
• that they will be strengthened by God to have “great endurance and patience” (v 11)
• that they will give joyful thanks to God the Father (v 12)
• praise for the inheritance they share as God’s holy people (v 12)
• praise for God’s rescue and salvation through Jesus (v 13)

Philippians 1:9-11

• prayer that each of our family members will “abound more and more” in their love of God as they know him better and better (v 9)
• seeking discernment for ourselves and for our family members about what is best (v 10)
• asking for our family to be pure and blameless, “filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ” (v 10-11)
• prayer that every element of our family life will be for the glory and praise of God (v 11)